Here are the two main possibilities: I realize it takes a certain amount of guts to go up to a group of people and insert yourself into their conversation. As a rule I think people should make an effort to introduce their friends to each other, unless they're really sure they wouldn't get along. If you're really bursting with initiative you could even plan some sort of party or larger get together yourself. There's a lot you can do to improve your social skills on your own - I wouldn't have made this site if I thought otherwise. That doesn't necessarily mean the group doesn't like you, just that if some members have known each other a while it's inevitable that they'll be more drawn towards each other, and might unintentionally leave you out somewhat. 10 Things to Avoid In Order to Make Friends, Why You Keep Going Back Again and Again to a Friend That Hurts You, How to Deal With a Friend Who Talks Over You, Image: photostock / In a third class it's just you and one of the members. Even if everyone can't make it, it will still send the message that you're interested in hanging out with them. This article, and the ones it links to, cover that issue in more detail. I have a Master of Social Work (MSW) degree, and a B.A. It might not feel good or comfortable in the very beginning, but it will get easier as time goes on. When people have a dynamic already established, your very existence is going to disrupt that. They've got a group in mind they want to join, but don't know how to begin talking to them. As for what to do once you've been introduced and are getting to know everyone, the ideas in this article may help: Hanging Around New People Who All Know Each Other. It shouldn't be thought of as a way to subtly worm your way into a clique that would reject you if you approached them more directly: However you first make contact with a group, if you're a good fit for it this step may be the only point of struggle, and once you've broken the ice the rest will take care of itself. You live in a dorm, but haven't clicked with anyone on your floor. It's an uncertain, risky period you need to be willing to go through. Like they may now be able to chat to a group of guys in one of their classes, but not hang out with them on the weekends. in Psychology. This point isn't really a practical piece of advice, but I think it can be useful to remember if, say, you've been in college for three weeks and are already getting frustrated that you don't have an amazing gang of lifelong friends yet. They may initially assume that you're going to be yet another person who signs up for their group and then quits. You work at a big company. There are many ways to go about this, but here are a few examples. One way to get a group of friends is to join an existing one. For the latter case getting in is mainly just a matter of letting them know you want come along the next time they all meet up.